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(S)he'll keep my privacy (although Facebook makes this so troublesome that it's actually sensible to ",[43,99,102],{"href":100,"rel":101},"http:\u002F\u002Fmashable.com\u002F2012\u002F05\u002F14\u002Fprivacywatch-infographic\u002F",[47],"pay for being informed",") and thoughts. And trust... is earned with time. Faith is not something you immediately have for someone you met in a bar last night.",[105,106],"hr",{},[28,108,109],{},"People take befriending online way too easily and are then hurt when irony happens. Another metaphor: would you have unprotected sex on the first date?",[28,111,112],{},"When I didn't accept her invitation to connect, she was offended... and I felt bad. This post is my explanation: you're nice and intriguing. 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